True story, a man walked into a Starbucks in Tulsa Oklahoma, ordered his coffee, and then paid for his and the strangers coffee behind him. This one act started a chain reaction of generosity that concluded with 185 people buying coffee for the stranger behind them.
For one afternoon in a Starbucks in Tulsa Oklahoma, the reality of 185 people changed. 185 people began considering the stranger standing behind them before they considered themselves.
One stranger, with one cup of coffee, changed the world for 185 people, for one afternoon.
Be generous. Not just to the people you know, but to everyone you come in contact with. You never know what you may start.
The difference between the two is time. It’s the ten seconds you take before responding to criticism. It’s stopping to think before you speak. Because sometimes our quickest reactions are the ones we regret the longest.
*This is very rarely easy… at least for me.
I’m not sure we understand the power of our words. One negative, hurtful word, said out of hand or without thought, is like a seed that gets stuck deep into a person’s soul. You might think that what I’m saying is extreme but think with me a minute. Go back to the earliest memory you have of someone saying something hurtful to you, and tell me how it STILL feels.
OUR WORDS ARE POWERFUL.
We get angry and strikeout. An off-handed comment, a verbal jab said without thinking. And that word sinks in. It begins to grow. It feeds on self-esteem, and its fruit is insecurity. Over time the person’s spirit grows weak, brittle, then broken.
Most of the time the only thing left is BITTERNESS.
Now a person who was once full of joy is nothing. Destroyed by a stray thought, a word spoken out of a flash of emotion.
A PERSON IS DESTROYED BECAUSE WE DON’T UNDERSTAND THE POWER OF OUR WORDS.
But all is not lost. If this is what we can do with a thoughtless word spoken, imagine what we could do if we learn to speak words that BUILD. Those kinds of words bring LIFE.
Think of your favorite social media platform as a place you go in real life. Maybe it’s a coffee shop, church, a park. Somewhere you go to spend time with people face to face.
Now, before you post anything online think about this, if you were at that favorite spot, surrounded by people, some you know and some who are strangers, would you say out loud what you were about to post online?
If what you were about to publish was about someone else, if they were in the same place, within earshot, would you say what you were about to post? (Would you say it to there face?)
If the answer is no, you probably shouldn’t post whatever it is you are thinking about posting.
Sidebar: Posting a selfie is like being in that favorite place surrounded my people and yelling out at the top of your lungs, “Hey everybody, look at me!!! Look what I’m doing! Aren’t I amazing!” (No one wants to be that guy.)
When dealing with people, everything you do communicates the value you have for them.
Do you keep your word? Are you on time? Are you early? Do you string them along with promises or commitments that are not in your authority to give?
Your actions always speak louder than your words.
Disappointments will come. People will let you down. Endure.