The Enemy is the Enemy

“People are not the enemy. The enemy is the enemy.”

My father-in-law says that a lot. And it’s true.
People are not the enemy, but people can be stupid.
And hurtful.
And mean.
And angry.
And insecure.
And hurting.
And sad.
And bitter.
And broken.
And hopeless.
And sometimes, so am I.
We must learn to forgive.
We must learn to give the people the benefit of the doubt.

“We are all in the same boat in a stormy sea, and we owe each other a terrible loyalty.” – GK Chesterton

Come to Me

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”
Matthew 11:28-29

It’s an invitation.

It’s an invitation to a new way of living.

It’s an invitation to peace.

And all it takes if for me to let down my guard, drop all pretense and show. I have to become honest and authentic with where I am. I need to completely open up about my pain, frustration, worry, doubt, and fear.

I have to come to Him.

Let it Go

I’m amazed at how many people I meet that are missing great opportunities because they can’t bring themselves to let old things go.

People that are holding on so tightly to an offense that they don’t have a hand free to grab on to something good that might be coming there way.

Unforgiveness is a prison. It traps you at the moment in time when the offense occurred. I know you know people like this. They talk about hurts they experienced five, ten, twenty years ago like it happened yesterday.

Some people are lucky; when they hold on to unforgiveness, it only affects one area of their life. For other people, unforgiveness takes over.

They become bitter, hurting, mean, and unhappy.
They don’t know how it happened. They use to be normal. They use to be happy. They use to be unafraid. They use to not feel so alone.

The offense was real. The pain you felt was real. The pain you might feel right now is real. But the odds are, the only one who is hurt by it now is you.

To hold onto an offense, to not forgive, to live any part of your life in the past only hurts you.

You may be spending so much time looking at the past, that you’re missing a great future.

Don’t let what happened to you in the past affect what could happen to you today.

Your spouse may have cheated and left, that doesn’t mean your next one will. Your parents may have hurt you, we all make mistakes, we all say things we shouldn’t. Your kids may not be speaking to you, call them again. Your old business partner may have stolen from you. Start a new business.

Every day that you wake up is a new day, full of new possibilities and great opportunities.

Don’t hinder yourself.

Choose to let go. Choose to forgive.

Terms of Service

This is a term we are all familiar with. (Unless you live in a cave somewhere.)

These are the rules that we have to agree to so we can use specific devices or software like our phones or social media. Every once in a while, it seems more often than not, these rules are updated, and we have to agree with them.

The updated terms never benefit us, the consumer. They are usually the result of some loophole that was found by the company, and they want to protect themselves. We hardly ever read them, and have no idea what we agree to. (The companies count on that, we could be signing the rights of our organs away for all we know.)

I had a funny thought about this the other day. The Bible is God’s “terms of service.”

It is God telling us, this is who I am, this is what I do, and this is what you need to do to connect with Me. (He does more for us than we do for Him BTW)

But His terms never change. He never updates them to change what He is willing to do or who He is willing to love. They just are. Always. Never changing. Perfect.

And they are there for our benefit, not His. The Bible is not an exhaustive list of what God is willing to do or be until He changes His mind and then changes the terms.

He is always the same. His word never changes. He never changes.

It’s Time to Leave

It’s time to shake off that old thing that’s been holding on for so long that you feel as if it has become part of your body.

Maybe it’s a failure, a heartbreak, or something you wish you had said but didn’t or never had the chance.

Whatever it is, whatever has anchored you to your past, leaving you unable to move forward into freedom or destiny, maybe it’s time to leave it.

Maybe it’s time to let it go.

Remember, “You don’t drown by falling in the water, you drown by staying there.”