I’m amazed at how many people I meet that are missing great opportunities because they can’t bring themselves to let old things go.
People that are holding on so tightly to an offense that they don’t have a hand free to grab on to something good that might be coming there way.
Unforgiveness is a prison. It traps you at the moment in time when the offense occurred. I know you know people like this. They talk about hurts they experienced five, ten, twenty years ago like it happened yesterday.
Some people are lucky; when they hold on to unforgiveness, it only affects one area of their life. For other people, unforgiveness takes over.
They become bitter, hurting, mean, and unhappy. They don’t know how it happened. They use to be normal. They use to be happy. They use to be unafraid. They use to not feel so alone.
The offense was real. The pain you felt was real. The pain you might feel right now is real. But the odds are, the only one who is hurt by it now is you.
To hold onto an offense, to not forgive, to live any part of your life in the past only hurts you.
You may be spending so much time looking at the past, that you’re missing a great future.
Don’t let what happened to you in the past affect what could happen to you today.
Your spouse may have cheated and left, that doesn’t mean your next one will. Your parents may have hurt you, we all make mistakes, we all say things we shouldn’t. Your kids may not be speaking to you, call them again. Your old business partner may have stolen from you. Start a new business.
Every day that you wake up is a new day, full of new possibilities and great opportunities.
Don’t hinder yourself.
Choose to let go. Choose to forgive.
Originally published at Niles Holsinger.