This Is Not The Real World. This Is A Fantasy.

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Social Media is not the real world. It is a fantasy.

A fantasy built on the pieces of our lives we believe others think are the best parts of us. (Or what we want them to think are the best parts of us*.)

These platforms were created by corporations that spend millions of dollars to manipulate and program our thinking. Companies that then make billions of dollars off of our insecurities and addictions, most of which they created and feed. (I wish this was just my opinion, but it’s not. Look it up.**)

Social media is fun. There are some good things about it. But don’t be deceived into believing these platforms are here for our benefit. We are not the beneficiaries; we are the product. They are selling us and our information to other big companies which again want nothing more than to use and manipulate us.

Our ignorance is their advantage.

* The truth is, the best parts of us are the parts we usually never show on social media. The real you is better than any fantasy.

** I know that this may make me look like a conspiracy theory, paranoid nut, but I’m just a Father/Husband/Human who sees way more negative things happening then positive coming from these platforms. (Did you know that depression and suicide rates among elementary age children are higher than ever and it has been directly connected to the way their brains have become wired for “likes”?)


Simple Advice Before You Post Online

Think of your favorite social media platform as a place you go in real life. Maybe it’s a coffee shop, church, a park. Somewhere you go to spend time with people face to face.

Now, before you post anything online think about this, if you were at that favorite spot, surrounded by people, some you know and some who are strangers, would you say out loud what you were about to post online?

If what you were about to publish was about someone else, if they were in the same place, within earshot, would you say what you were about to post? (Would you say it to there face?)

If the answer is no, you probably shouldn’t post whatever it is you are thinking about posting.

Sidebar: Posting a selfie is like being in that favorite place surrounded my people and yelling out at the top of your lungs, “Hey everybody, look at me!!! Look what I’m doing! Aren’t I amazing!” (No one wants to be that guy.)

Originally published at Niles Holsinger.

Journal This

You Know We Can See That?

You think it’s a small thing but it’s making a big impact on your life.
Guys, you do know that all your friends on Instagram and Facebook can see every image, video or article you “like”, don’t you?

Maybe you didn’t know that’s how it worked. Maybe you didn’t know that on the same account that we see you post how much you love God, your wife, your kids and your church. The same place where you post your favorite Bible Scriptures, pictures of your bible study notes, the small group lesson you’re about to teach, or how you can’t wait for worship this weekend, we also see every inappropriate picture or video you “like”.

Maybe you didn’t know that, or maybe you do and you just don’t care. But you should care. Because it’s a problem. Because just like the pictures you post are a window into your life, this content that you are looking at and endorsing with your “likes” is a window into your heart. And maybe you’ve convinced yourself that’s it’s “not a big deal”, “It’s just Instagram, it’s not like I’m looking at porn.”

Well, you’re wrong. It is a big a deal.

Here’s something else you may not know, it’s hurting you. It’s hurting your marriage. It’s hurting your testimony. It’s hurting your ministry. It’s hurting your potential to reach the people around you. It’s hurting your relationship with God. It’s only getting bigger and it’s won’t just go away on it’s own.

I’m not judging you. I’m concerned about you. I’m trying to help you. I’ve seen too many men lose too much, because of something they thought was so little, that became uncontrollable.

So stop right now. Take a minute and listen to the Holy Spirit. Is this for you? That offense or anger you may be feeling right now may not be anger at all, but loving conviction from the Lord.

Repent. Ask the Lord to forgive you. Ask Him to free you. Call your Pastor, a church leader, a mentor or a friend that won’t judge you but walk beside you through this process of freedom. (And if you are married, let them help you talk to your wife)

And then, delete your Instagram or Facebook. It may seem extreme, but I can assure you that what you are gaining far outweighs what you are losing.

Today could be the best day you’ve had in a long time.