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Choose to Forgive

I’m amazed at how many people I meet that are missing great opportunities because they can’t bring themselves to let old things go.
 People that are holding on so tightly to an offense that they don’t have a hand free to grab on to something good that might be coming there way.

Unforgiveness is a prison. It traps you at the moment in time when the offense occurred. I know you know people like this. They talk about hurts they experienced five, ten, twenty years ago like it happened yesterday.

Some people are lucky; when they hold on to unforgiveness, it only affects one area of their life. For other people, unforgiveness takes over.

They become bitter, hurting, mean, and unhappy. They don’t know how it happened. They use to be normal. They use to be happy. They use to be unafraid. They use to not feel so alone.

The offense was real. The pain you felt was real. The pain you might feel right now is real. But the odds are, the only one who is hurt by it now is you.

To hold onto an offense, to not forgive, to live any part of your life in the past only hurts you.

You may be spending so much time looking at the past, that you’re missing a great future.

Don’t let what happened to you in the past affect what could happen to you today.

Your spouse may have cheated and left, that doesn’t mean your next one will. Your parents may have hurt you, we all make mistakes, we all say things we shouldn’t. Your kids may not be speaking to you, call them again. Your old business partner may have stolen from you. Start a new business.

Every day that you wake up is a new day, full of new possibilities and great opportunities.

Don’t hinder yourself.

Choose to let go. Choose to forgive.


Originally published at Niles Holsinger.

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Smart Versus Wise

Being SMART does not mean you’re WISE. We can go through life learning all sorts of facts. We can learn all kinds of lessons. We can gather all manner of experiences. But that does not make us WISE, that just makes us SMART.

WISDOM comes when we take all that knowledge that we have accumulated, all those lessons we have learned and APPLY it to our lives.

Learning makes you SMART. Applying what you have learned to your life makes you WISE.


Originally published at nilesholsinger.com on April 2, 2018.

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On Change

I hate CHANGE.

I am one of those people that order the same thing every time I go to a restaurant; I never try anything new.

There’s nothing wrong with not liking change. There is, however, something unhealthy about RUNNING FROM CHANGE.

“CHANGE is the only constant in maturity.”

If you always fight change, you will never grow. If you want to mature, if you’re going to grow, you have to be willing to CHANGE.

One thing I am sure about is I don’t know everything. (My wife would confirm this if you like) Because I don’t know everything, I tend to ask a lot of questions, “Why would you say that?”, “Why would you do this?”, “Why do you believe that?”.

The one answer that makes me cringe every time I hear it is, “because we’ve always done it like that” or “because it’s always been that way.”

Right now people are reading this that need to make some changes. Some serious, some not so serious. (yet)

There are businessmen and women whose companies would grow if they would make changes in their staff, “But they’ve been here forever!” It doesn’t matter. CHANGE.

There are husbands whose marriages are slipping away because they won’t grow up, “She knew I was this way when she married me”. So what, CHANGE!

There are some teens that are reading this, and you know that if you don’t change the decisions you are making, they are going to wreck you. Don’t wait. CHANGE!

There are parents who are about to lose your relationship with your kids because you can’t admit you might be wrong. CHANGE!

Don’t let pride or comfort get in the way of your growth. We were created to go to the next level. The next level in our RELATIONSHIPS, in our WORK, in our SCHOOL, and in our FAMILIES.

DON’T BE AFRAID OF CHANGE!


Originally published at nilesholsinger.com on March 13, 2018.